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Random person here with …complicated feelings about Elite
Elite: Dangerous is a pretty dang good spaceship flight simulator, and it’s an incredible experience even just for the exploration and sound design, but I do want to gently warn you that most of the meat and bones of the combat and engineering isn’t well-balanced or is grindy.
that said some of the most serene and otherworldly experiences of my life were when I stayed up late, space mining or sightseeing in VR and with a HOTAS. And there is a racing community of people who gear out really fast and nimble ships and do canyon runs and stunt flights. But again, pretty high barrier of entry to doing that cool stuff, because you have to progress engineering which is grindy, and that’s on top of the game’s controls being detailed enough that it might take you a week to get your space legs.
Is not looking bad more valuable than the effort involved in one or both of you learning iOS?