My gender is my concern, but you may use any pronoun to refer to me

you can be wrong all you like but we have the data. the claim isn’t that violent videogames cause violence, it’s that venting your aggression breeds further aggression. most people don’t play violent video games because they need an outlet for their aggression and violence!! if that is something you experience, it’s not something fucking video games can help you with!! you need to actually work on your shit.
I took you to mean competitive gaming. Playing against humans is always going to be better if you want meaningful competition. I understand that you don’t, but you should also recognize that’s a huge part of gaming for a lot of people, and was (with a very small number of exceptions) literally the only way to play any game for thousands of years. The negativity that you refer to has more to do with playing against children than playing competitive games and that makes your criticism come off more like copium than a genuine reason.