Hey just letting you know that I used to be in a similar situation (215km daily; 3 hrs of commuting), and I feel your pain.
I did it for several years and the dangerous part is just getting used to many hours of your day evaporating into thin air. Ages 1-7 are critically formative years for a child, and you should be around as much as possible. Every time I think about the days where I left the house before my kids woke up, and came home after they were in bed, kills me.
Please try your best to find a job with a shorter commute. The time you don’t spend with your family gets lost forever. I’m rooting for you!
Good write up! It certainly made me nostalgic for the games of that era.