Lol I wonder what your job is?

Stop complaining and if you want open source so bad make it. I am hardcore open source advocate but you are going beyond , they are giving out for free.

They are plenty of options! Immich is a really popular one , I went with Synology photos since I own a Synology NAS

Put some of the nice features behind a paywall

Privacy now that Apple owns your data instead of Google. Apple is always calling back home , they ask for so much private information when you create an account , they control your app store and what apps you are allow to have. Even on the lockdown mode which was supposed to be the most secure it still contact apple servers and when using a VPN not all traffic pass through the tunnel , because Apple dont allow you. If you really want privacy buy a device that you own , and can control. Your privacy and security is on your hands not in a big corporation.